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Dreams of Weddings December 4, 2010

Wedding dreams, which can occur at any stage of life, tend to be especially meaningful. For example, the first dream I ever recorded (see post from Aug. 31, 2010) occurred during a life-changing mid-life transition and featured a wedding.

As a brief aside, you should know that therapists who do dreamwork find the first dream a client brings them extremely significant. This is because the Dream Mother is not about to waste the initial collaboration between the ego and Self on trivialities! Because she knows us better than we know ourselves, she sees when our egos are ready to get serious and intentionally gives us a big dream that highlights our major life issues and sometimes even suggests their resolution.

Sure enough, my first dream marked the point at which I committed myself to inner work and was, indeed, a commentary on the major theme of my life’s journey. (For those of you new to my blog, at the age of 11 my parents divorced and then my father died three months later after remarrying. So my life’s theme of healing my inner masculine and feminine and trying to reunite them in the Sacred Marriage shouldn’t surprise you!) My dream said I was running from the passions of my masculine side (to understand myself and write about the inner life); had an immature view of Love; had a feminine shadow that was woefully uncreative, unfulfilled, and incomplete; and had better start taking my life seriously if I didn’t want to end up like her!

Wedding dreams mark transitions between outworn stages of growth and more mature ones.  Essentially, they symbolize the dreamer’s readiness for greater internal union, expanding consciousness, and new psycho-spiritual life.

For example, a young adult might dream about weddings around the time of college graduation. I would see this as a celebration of the successful completion of an early phase of integrating one’s “masculine” side (developing knowledge and skills in preparation for work) with one’s “feminine” side (growing emotionally stronger and forming new intimate relationships). I’d also see it as a rehearsal for the next phase in which the task of finding meaningful work and a life partner with whom to settle down, establish a home, etc. begins in earnest. Finally, I would expect the role of bride or groom to be filled by the dream ego because this is the phase of life in which developing a strong and healthy ego is of paramount importance.

On the other hand, a wedding dream during mid-life would suggest something quite different. In my above-mentioned dream it was a reminder that I had tarried overlong in the stage of outer world ego-development and a signal that I was ready for the next stage of taking my inner life more seriously and integrating my fuller potential. As one would expect, the bride was an ambitious working woman very much like me.

But the consummate wedding dream is when you are invited to the wedding of the King and Queen, for this is a symbol of wholeness that means your ego is prepared to step aside and witness the Sacred Marriage between the noblest aspects of your Self. May you one day witness this most sacred sacrament of all.


Religion and the Sacred Marriage November 30, 2010

That a man cannot be whole without accepting his feminine side and that the Sacred indwells all of us are not new ideas. But what is less commonly known is that these ideas were accepted by many early Christians.

Dr. Stephan Hoeller has examined the Dead Sea Scrolls and the lost gospels found in the Nag Hammadi Library in Egypt. In Jung and the Lost Gospels he notes that in the Gospel of Thomas Simon Peter asks Jesus to send Mary away from the disciples because he believes women unworthy. In response to Peter’s chauvinism, Jesus tells him in the only way he is capable of understanding, “…every woman that becomes male will enter the kingdom of heaven.” Jesus shows that the opposite is also true when he says, “When you make the two one, and when you make the inmost as the outermost and the outer as the inner and the above as the below, and when you make the male and female into a single unity, so that the male will not be only male and the female will not be only female…then surely you will enter the kingdom.”

Dr. Elaine Pagels, professor of religion at Princeton, has also studied the lost gospels. In Beyond Belief she describes the writings and actions of many early church leaders who, despite the assertion in the book of Genesis that we were made “in the image of God,” simply could not conceive “that God’s light shines not only in Jesus but, potentially, at least, in everyone”. One example was Irenaeus, the Christian bishop of Lyons (c. 180) who vigorously warned his flock to despise “heretics” who suggest that we have inner spiritual resources. Nonetheless, what Irenaeus dismissed “as heretical later became a central theme of Jewish mystical tradition — that the ‘image of God’ is hidden within each of us, secretly linking God and all humankind”.

The lost gospels show that Jesus gave special teachings to those of his disciples who could understand them. One of these was Mary Magdalene who succeeded in making the “male” (masculine mode of energy) and “female” (feminine mode of energy) into a single unity, thus experiencing the Sacred Marriage  and entering the kingdom within.

In psychological language we would say that her ego died to the world’s opinion and established the proper relationship with the Sacred Self within. We can imagine how mind-blowing this inner re-centering must have been at a time when no one had any understanding of psychology. In freeing herself from narrow conventional thinking she must have been a revolutionary role model for women, a formidable proponent of the new religion, and an easy target for misogynists like Pope Gregory who, over 500 years later, labeled her a fallen, sinful woman.

In the first century Middle East the concepts of femininity being as worthy as masculinity and humanity containing divinity were incomprehensible to most people and documents promoting these ideas had to be hidden away to prevent their destruction,. Thus, much of the wisdom of the early “Jesus Movement” was lost to the masses for two thousand years. Fortunately, it is being resurrected today by Spirit Warriors from every religion who honor the authority of God’s kingdom within each of us over limiting beliefs imposed by human hierarchies from without.


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