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Into the Heart of the Feminine April 28, 2015

Medusa-Caravaggio_(Uffizi)There is a thinking in primordial images, in symbols which are older than the historical man, which are inborn in him from the earliest times, eternally living, outlasting all generations, still making up the groundwork of the human psyche. It is only possible to live the fullest life when we are in harmony with these symbols; wisdom is a return to them.
– Carl Jung

This blog is based on my passion for self-knowledge and understanding the two great archetypal foundations of life: the feminine and masculine principles. My research, writing and inner work have shed a great deal of light on these mysteries. They’ve also shown me how much I don’t know. Luckily, I have many opportunities to learn.  One recently appeared in the form of a book I was asked to review. I’m delighted to share its deep wisdom about the feminine principle with you.

Into the Heart of the Feminine: An Archetypal Journey to Renew Strength, Love, and Creativity, is co-authored by Jungian analysts Massimilla and Bud Harris. In this outstanding and groundbreaking book, the Harrises use the myth of the Greek Gorgon Medusa to demonstrate the timeless reality of a profoundly destructive complex of images, symbols and themes known as the Death Mother.

Myths are born whenever a culture evolves into a new stage of psychological awareness. Exploring them provides healing and understanding of these developments that are trying to become conscious. Medusa’s myth emerged in Greece during a time when patriarchal gods were trying to assimilate and control the transformative aspects of the feminine principle. The Harrises have uncovered traces of this myth countless times in themselves and their clients.

Medusa was a ravishingly beautiful maiden raped by the god Poseidon in Athena‘s temple. The angry goddess transformed Medusa’s beautiful hair to serpents and made her face so terrible that the mere sight of it would turn onlookers to stone. This is a perfect symbol for the devastating psychological impact of patriarchy’s wounding and devaluing of the feminine archetype.

To quote the Harrises, the Death Mother “paralyzes our initiative, spirit, creativity, and vitality.” Her negativity “affects our culture in general, mothering in particular, and our ability to like, nourish, and take loving care of ourselves.” Unfortunately, it also cripples our ability to meet the emotional needs of our children. Thus do many of us, women and men alike, grow up feeling so unloved, unlovable, depressed, and deeply disappointed in life that we pass on the same curse to them. What’s more, “When the feminine principle is repressed into our unconscious, it becomes part of our collective shadow, and this shadow projects itself as a longing, or even a demand, for power.” Many of us experience the negative consequences of that particular beast every day.

UnknownWith Medusa’s story as guide, the Harrises demonstrate that to bring the feminine into our world, we must begin in a personal way. Only by taking the time to reconnect with the wholeness of who we are—and dreamwork is a primary way—can we learn to value the feminine and have it become reborn within us. This point is illustrated throughout the book in stories about clients who have experienced healing by following the map for the journey outlined in Medusa’s myth.

This requires us to recognize our denial and face our fear of inadequacy, shame, rejection, and belittlement along with the underlying rage, grief and woundedness that give rise to these debilitating fears. With reflection we accept “the reality that we have been damaged by some of the primary attitudes and values in our culture.” This realization strengthens us to confront our personal Death Mother.  In the final phase of healing we learn to pay attention to our lives so that we can celebrate the transformation taking place by living a fuller, richer life.

I love this book.  You’d get a good idea how much if you could see the underlines and comments on practically every page. One of my favorite things about it, apart from the many “Ahas” I acquired about my own Death Mother complex, is the Harrises’ clear grasp of our current cultural mentality. We’ve become so rational, verbal and literal that we’ve forgotten how symbols and images carry a deeper reality than words.  We’ve lost the art of thinking symbolically. And as the authors say, “To lose this art is to lose the kind of grounding that enables us to experience the beautiful depths of love and the Divine presence that is potentially within our capacities.”

What greater loss could there be than that?

You can see Massimilla Harris speaking about the Death Mother at this link:   

Image Credits:  Medusa, Caravaggio.  Wikimedia Commons.  Cover Design of Into the Heart of the Feminine: Courtney Tiberio.  Cover Photo:  Anthony Cave

Jean Raffa’s The Bridge to Wholeness and Dream Theatres of the Soul are at Amazon. E-book versions are also at KoboBarnes And Noble and Smashwords. Healing the Sacred Divide can be found at Amazon and Larson Publications, Inc.

 

28 Responses to “Into the Heart of the Feminine”

  1. jcowles2001 Says:

    Thank you Jeanie. I am currently working on a section about the archetype of the Divine Feminine in my book…How she appears in our personal and collective dreams, visions, and synchronicities (like this post, for instance!). Thank you for so eloquently stating your ideas while providing an intriguing review of what sounds like my ‘kinda’ book; one that I’ve now added to my reading list.

    Hugs,
    Jenna

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    • jeanraffa Says:

      My pleasure, Jenna. You know how much I love this inner adventure into the depths. It’s so wonderful sharing the journey with you. I can’t wait to glean more wisdom from your book. More hugs, Jeanie

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  2. Anastasia Michala Says:

    Thanks a lot for sharing !!!

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  3. slfuchs Says:

    Jean, If I understand you correctly, but “thinking symbolically” is what I try to do to understand the message of biblical stories. To me moving away from the literal is vital to that task. Thank you for this enlightening essay!.

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    • jeanraffa Says:

      Hi Rabbi Stephen. Yes, you pass on that wiser and fuller way of thinking in your symbolic interpretations of sacred stories. We’re so hungry for spiritual meaning. Unfortunately, head knowledge, reason, words, and literalism can’t change us because they don’t touch the heart, the storehouse of our deepest feelings and emotions and the source of compassion and love. The underlying symbolism in stories and dreams, however, has the power to change us by helping us feel our own fear, grief and pain. In so doing, we tap into that wellspring of living water, the key to our transformation. To re-quote Jung: “It is only possible to live the fullest life when we are in harmony with these symbols; wisdom is a return to them.” Thank you for writing.

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  4. Susan Scott Says:

    Thank you Jeanie, this is an important addition to the wisdom of the archetypes, the Death Mother in this instance. A great loss to lose our connection to the world of symbolism as well as the ability to experience the divine within. Will we ever move away from literalness and rationality? I think so … there’s a zeitgeist about I think from one to the other, none too soon.

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    • jeanraffa Says:

      Hi, Susan. I see a movement toward more symbolic thinking as well. Films, television, feminism, computers and the internet all contribute to this resurgence. Of course, these all have negative aspects as well, but hopefully our increased communication and expanding collective consciousness can help us counteract them. By the way, I’m loving your daily blog posts about dreams and hate to see them end! Thank you for your contributions to our awareness of the value of symbolic thinking. Jeanie

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  5. Brian Carlin Says:

    The literalism of logos, I suppose, gives an inevitable hardening or simplification to our understandings, much the way that we see matter in our everyday lives as solids, liquids or gases, and forget or ignore the mystery of existence at the sub-atomic level, which is indeed where the heart is.
    And so to my baby, poetry. Which opens the door to the heart through reminding us of the sub-atomic meanings and feelings attached to the word.
    Always a pleasure to read you, Jeanie. Always a thrill where you take me.

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    • jeanraffa Says:

      Hey, Brian! Yaaay! Your comment came through without being blocked!! Thank goodness that’s fixed!

      I love your way of expressing this issue of our obsession with literalism. It does, indeed, harden and simplify, leaving no room for complexity, feeling, or personal valuing: all the coolest and best stuff about our species with its profoundly felt yearnings toward all the things that make up a soul, like purpose, joy, creativity, intimacy, mystery and spiritual meaning! How could we as a species have thought we were functioning so well for so long with this serious oversight about the truth of our own makeup?

      And yes, your baby, poetry, the highest and best manifestation of the sacred gift of words. For me, that place of creativity and imagination, that nous which molds words into poetry, is our portal to the Holy: “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” I don’t know about you, but my heart quickens at the depth of meaning in these timeless words about the sub-atomic realm.

      Yes, indeed, always a pleasure, my friend.

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  6. Vangie Rich Says:

    Jeannie, I just read this “lesson” and found another piece of myself! Can’t wait to see you, soon I hope. Wish you could be here for Love Letters. We’re excited! Love, Vangie >

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    • jeanraffa Says:

      Hi Vangie, You found another piece of yourself! I love it when that happens!! I’m dying to know which piece. 🙂 Will you tell me when I see you this summer? Does it have anything to do with acting and the the symbolism found in good theater? I so wish I could see your play, but it’s not to be. I can’t wait to hear all about it. Love, Jeanie

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  7. Certainly made me want the book. I could use it for my essay looking at gender construction and symbolic implications in,The Odyssey, and Metamorphoses. I will look around town for it tomorrow. Your book looks good too. 😉

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  8. […] friends: last week’s post about the new book, Into the Heart of the Feminine, by Jungian analysts Drs. Bud and Massimilla […]

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  9. elainemansfield Says:

    Thank you, Jeanie. Sounds like a book I’ll love.

    Recently, my mythology class studied an article by Toni Wolff on the four-fold feminine. We wove in the goddesses which Toni Wolff didn’t do with depth. Recently we made a collage of each of the four archetypes–mother, hetaira, amazon, and crone in positive and negative aspects. Two of our group members led this exercise, an art teacher and an art therapist, and created a great way to process the work. Negative Mother scared a few of the women, but we created the Negative Mother card in a circle of protection. The cards are remarkable. Lots of Medusa and Durga energy. Lots of blood red for life-giving and taking. Teeth, snakes, and tears.

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    • jeanraffa Says:

      What an amazing form of active imagination your group has found! This is bound to bring healing new insights into the lives of many of you. I think the Negative, or Death Mother’s time has come to be consciously dealt with, and you’ve provided a wonderful example of one way to do it. I’d love to hear about other ways people have found. Thank you, Elaine.

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  10. Darla Says:

    Thank you for your wise post, and for recommending the book; it’s now on my wish list. 🙂 I have to say that I’m struggling to understand the Death Mother, and hoping she will become clearer at some point. I recently listened to Marion Woodman talk about Death Mother via Marlene Schiwy’s interview (a DVD collection) and had trouble getting it straight. I’ll take it in small portions and let it simmer a bit each time. 🙂 As for Medusa, a few years ago, I read of a group that created a ritual for “reconnecting Medusa’s head to her body” with the conscious intention of healing … they made, if I recall correctly, a cloth body and a cloth head that they then stitched back together. It sounded quite powerful!

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    • jeanraffa Says:

      You’re welcome Darla. I know what you mean about not quite understanding the Death Mother. I think we’re only just beginning to see what she really is. We’ve lived in a society that scorns people who “blame” their parents for their unhappiness without accepting the fact that sometimes the parents are, indeed to blame. Because children who aren’t loved grow up to be adults who don’t love. We’re told to toughen up, get over it, act like an adult, stop feeling sorry for ourselves, be a warrior…..all that obsessive masculine stoicism that’s so killing to the tender soul. So we tell ourselves we’re fine because we don’t want to be ridiculed or judged by the harsh critics who wouldn’t know love if they saw it, but would see it as weakness. And parents go on being tough because they’re afraid not to be tough, afraid they’ll be accused of being “soft”, of “spoiling” their child, etc.

      The authors say that the Death Mother is active in the parent who doesn’t know how to nurture her child, either outer or inner; who isn’t interested, doesn’t listen, doesn’t have time to give, won’t go out of her way, resents having to spend time, or is impatient or overly critical or judgmental. S/he doesn’t know how to cherish the child, give it warmth and understanding, etc. All this, because s/he was treated the same way as a child.

      So all the best of the feminine qualities: the tender feeling, the trust and vulnerability, the patience and sweet receptivity, the gentle forgiveness, all this is frozen and replaced with indifference, perfectionism, demanding, controlling, or manipulating to get what I as a parent want from my child, instead of taking it upon myself to learn how to love and nourish my child. The authors give examples of people who have grown up with Death Mothers but have never really faced this fact. Because it’s a terrible thing to realize your parent didn’t know how to love you. So you keep trying to please and earn their love, and you’ll never be healed until you stop trying and accept your true hurt, do your grieving, etc.

      Well, I didn’t know I was going to go on like that…….I guess my Shadow Orphan is showing up!!! I’ve seen and heard a lot of this in my life, although very little of it was aimed directly at me and my parents were definitely “good enough”. But that hard and tough attitude was very much a part of the Midwestern and Calvinistic “original sin” ethos in my parents generation and they couldn’t help but pass some of it on.

      Anyway, I hope this helps a bit! Very cool about the Medusa reconnection ritual! I love the creative rituals people come up with when they finally get it that their soul is wounded and needs some serious attention!

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      • Darla Says:

        Yes, this helps – thank you. Even uncomfortable as it may be at times, I do love this journey into greater consciousness. As it happens, after reading your posts, I read a post recommended by “Dreamwork with Toko-pa”: http://womboflight.com/2014/01/18/why-its-crucial-for-women-to-heal-the-mother-wound/ Would you see “Death Mother” as another aspect of, or the same as, the “Mother Wound”?

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      • jeanraffa Says:

        Hi Darla. You’re welcome. Yes, they’re both part of the same “syndrome.” It is a wounding that comes from growing up female in a culture that doesn’t fully support or value women or femininity. Thanks so much for providing this link. It’s a fabulous article that I highly recommend to anyone interested in this subject!

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    • elainemansfield Says:

      In Egyptian mythology, the Sky Goddess Nut swallows all living beings at their death and rebirths them into new life. This happens to the Sun, planets, and stars daily. To humans in a lifetime. To pharaohs, dogs, and ants. She’s one of the most interesting Death Mothers I’ve studied. The image of her elongated body arched across the sky is often painted on the ceiling of crypts or on the top of a casket. The Milky Way? All the souls in her body waiting to be reborn.

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      • jeanraffa Says:

        Thank you for mentioning this aspect of the Death Mother, Elaine. Like all archetypes, she too, is “bi-polar” by which Jung meant she contains opposite potentials: i.e. good and bad, dark and light, etc.

        In Lunar Mythology, the Death Mother is respected as part of the natural cycle of life and her presence, like death in dreams, always symbolizes our hope for new life. As light is necessary for ongoing life, so is dark; as birth is a natural process, so is death, and so is rebirth. So our ability to respect her in this aspect represents our ability to live our lives fully and joyfully in the knowledge that it is a natural phase in the cycle of life.

        However in Solar Mythology, (our present mindset), she is feared and repressed; hence we don’t know how to be grateful for the gift of life and tend to waste it in useless pursuits based on twisted values based on the obsession to escape Death, or at least, our awareness of it.

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      • elainemansfield Says:

        All so true. One of the things I love about Egyptian mythology is the mix of lunar and solar attributes of the ancient goddesses and gods. So you’d say the Egyptians had a Lunar Mythology? I agree. Do you know of a Jungian writer who has a book about Egyptian mythology? They certainly did honor Death. I love the unusual mix of gender relationships compared to European myth. There is a Solar Goddess as well as a Solar God and the power of the throne, the uroboros, is feminine. The Moon is associated with a God rather than a Goddess, and the Earth is masculine.

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      • jeanraffa Says:

        Thanks for this, Elaine. Yes, I would assume that Egyptian mythology was a blend of both, especially since, as you say, that they have both a Solar Goddess and God and a Lunar God. As Jung said, every archetype is bipolar (he meant that in terms of masculine/feminine too), which is why cultures tend to differ in their depictions of Deity. Ultimately it doesn’t matter which gender you assign because the point is not about the gender of our deities but about their wholeness and oneness! But until contemporary cultures realize this, we need to keep addressing this issue. I’m sorry but I don’t know of a Jungian who has written about Lunar Mythology. It would be fascinating, wouldn’t it?

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